How Do You Control Your Fear and Create Unstoppable Confidence? | Mel Robbins

TL;DR

To control fear and build confidence, notice your body’s fear signals early, slow the physical response, and act before anxious thoughts take over. Mel Robbins explains that the body can sense and remember fear before the mind catches up, with signals including butterflies, sweating, and a rush of energy. Read on for practical insights from Take Control of Your Life.

Transcript

today's coffee talk is all about feeling the fear and doing it anyway and i'm sure you've heard that statement right feel the fear and the thing that i want to talk to you about today is that there is not only a lot of inspiration behind that statement feel the fear but there's also a lot of science behind it and that's what we're going to talk abo... Read More

Key Insights

• "your body feels fear and remembers fear and senses fear way before your mind does" (1:47)
• "if you want to get through and break through your fears that are holding you back you're gonna need to learn to feel the fear and do it anyway" (0:23)
• "take control of your life is a live coaching and takeaway program that's 10 hours long" (2:41)
• "there are six people that you meet when you listen to take control of your life and they have fears just like you have fears" (2:48)
• "recognizing those signals first and slowing the body response down before your brain starts to go oh my god oh my god oh my god oh my god" (5:42)

Questions & Answers

Q: How do you control fear and create unstoppable confidence?

Start by noticing the physical signals of fear before your mind begins generating panicked thoughts. Mel Robbins says that recognizing and slowing the body’s response is a critical skill for taking control of your life.

Q: Why should you feel the fear and do it anyway?

Mel Robbins says breaking through fears requires learning to feel fear and act anyway. The idea has both inspiration and science behind it because the body senses fear before the mind identifies what it fears.

Q: Does the body feel fear before the mind does?

Yes. According to Mel Robbins, the body feels, remembers, and senses fear well before the mind catches up and starts thinking about the cause.

Q: What physical signals can indicate fear?

Fear signals can include butterflies in your stomach, a rush of energy toward your neck, sweaty armpits, and sweaty hands. These sensations can show that your body recognizes a situation that reminds it of the past.

Q: How can you stop fear before your thoughts begin to panic?

Tune into your body during everyday situations and recognize when it starts going on edge. Mel Robbins recommends identifying those signals and slowing the physical response before the brain begins producing panicked thoughts.

Q: Can childhood memories affect fear at work?

Mel Robbins says some workplace distress can relate to stored memories in the body from childhood, although other situations are about the people involved. She illustrates this through Heather, whose fear affects difficult conversations, conflicts with colleagues, and discussions with her boss.

Q: What is Take Control of Your Life by Mel Robbins?

Take Control of Your Life: How to Silence Fear and Win the Mental Game is an Audible Originals live coaching and takeaway program. It is 10 hours long and follows six people through six coaching sessions about fears that negatively affect their lives.

Q: What does the Take Control of Your Life program include?

Each session features a person’s fear, live coaching from Mel Robbins, and about 45 minutes of explanation afterward. The program also has a 55-page companion workbook designed by her team.

Summary & Key Takeaways

• Feeling fear is not just a motivational statement but has scientific backing, as your body senses fear before your mind does. Learning to recognize the signals your body sends can help you overcome your fears.

• The audiobook "Take Control of Your Life: How to Silence Fear and Win the Mental Game" offers live coaching sessions and takeaways to help people break free from their fears.

• Fear and excitement have the same physical state in the body, but the difference lies in how the brain interprets them. By reframing fear as excitement, you can harness its energy to push yourself forward.