How A Lack Of Confidence Leads To The Friendzone | Episode 015 Video Game Addiction

TL;DR

Gamers who lack confidence in real-life relationships often fall into the pattern of giving to get, which can lead to resentment and toxic behavior towards women.

Transcript

we talked a little bit about how relationships that are formed through the internet are actually really authentic and I think that that's an a really amazing thing but it also shapes what gamers become comfortable with since they're used to being kind of seen for themselves and not judged based on their appearance or how much money they have or the... Read More

Key Insights

• 💁 Relationships formed through the internet can shape a gamer's comfort level and expectations in real-life interactions.
• 🖤 Lack of confidence in the real world causes gamers to invest heavily in romantic relationships, hoping for validation and reciprocation.
• 🥺 Rejection after investing in a relationship can lead to resentment and a toxic attitude towards women.
• 🧑 Gamers need to be honest with themselves and the other person about their feelings from the beginning to avoid falling into the dangerous pattern of giving to get.
• 💦 Working on confidence is the solution, rather than increasing the investment in relationships.
• 🤳 The cycle of giving to get can become more detrimental with each rejection, further damaging self-confidence.
• 🥺 Expecting something in return for kindness leads to entitlement and disappointment.

Questions & Answers

Q: Why do gamers feel uncomfortable and judged in real-life interactions?

Gamers are used to being seen for themselves and not judged by their appearance, wealth, or ethnicity online. This lack of judgment exposes them to scrutiny and can result in a loss of confidence in real-life situations.

Q: Why do gamers tend to give in order to get in romantic relationships?

Gamers often feel insecure and believe that they need to level the playing field to have a chance with someone they are attracted to. They invest time, effort, and money in the hope that their kindness and generosity will be reciprocated.

Q: Why does rejection have a bigger impact on gamers who give to get?

Gamers invest a significant amount in the relationship and build up expectations. When their efforts are not reciprocated and they are rejected, it leads to a sense of betrayal, resentment, and a significant blow to their self-confidence.

Q: How does this pattern of giving to get affect future relationships?

Each rejection lowers the gamers' confidence, making it even harder for them to ask someone out in the future. This leads to an increased investment in relationships, further perpetuating the pattern of giving to get.

Summary & Key Takeaways

• Relationships formed through the internet are authentic but can lead to gamers feeling uncomfortable and judged in real-life interactions.

• Gamers often lack confidence in the real world, but feel more comfortable and confident behind a computer screen.

• Gamers tend to give in order to get in romantic relationships, investing time, effort, and money in the hopes of receiving something in return.