What Getting Blown Off Says About You

TL;DR

Most of the time, when someone ignores or doesn't respond to you, it has nothing to do with you personally.

Transcript

Marie:        Hey it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business and life you love and today is Q&A Tuesday, but get this, I have a question for you: does this sound upset you? Ah, crickets, the deafening silence that occurs when someone doesn’t respond to our email, phone call or text or in some way fails to a... Read More

Key Insights

• 😨 The fear of being ignored or rejected stems from our desire for validation, but it is important to detach our self-worth from others' responses.
• 🥡 Taking things personally is a result of selfishness and assuming that everything revolves around us.
• 🆘 Following up politely and with compassion can often yield positive results and help maintain relationships.
• 👯 Most people have experienced situations where they initially took something personally, only to realize later that it had nothing to do with them.
• 🖤 Overwhelmingly, people's lack of response or acknowledgment is more likely due to their own circumstances and limitations, rather than a reflection of your worth.
• 🤩 Communication skills are crucial, but assuming that you already have good skills, not taking things personally is the key to maintaining healthy relationships.
• 😃 Challenging ourselves not to take anything personally can be difficult but is an important muscle to build, especially when pursuing big goals.

Questions & Answers

Q: Why do people often ignore or fail to respond to messages?

People may be overwhelmed, forgetful, or simply too busy to respond. It is rarely about you personally.

Q: How can following up nicely make a difference?

Sending a friendly follow-up shows understanding and compassion, making the person more likely to respond positively.

Q: What if someone is consistently ignoring me?

Before assuming it is about you, consider that they may not have received the communication at all or that there may be other extenuating circumstances.

Q: How can we avoid taking things personally in our daily lives?

By adopting the belief that not everything is about us and understanding that people have their own reasons and priorities.

Summary & Key Takeaways

• Being ignored or blown off by someone does not mean there is something wrong with you; it is often about their own circumstances and priorities.

• It is important to remember not to take anything personally, as people's actions or lack of response are not a reflection of your worth or value.

• Instead of making assumptions, it is useful to follow up politely and compassionately, understanding that people can easily forget or overlook messages.