"In my therapy practice, I’ve seen overthinking erode love between people whenever it operates unseen and unchallenged."

"Now, over two decades later, I know differently. Happy love stories are created, not stumbled upon."

"Painful insecurity and self-judgment are the hallmarks of chronic doubt cycles. The more you overthink, the less you trust your own recollections and intuition."

"1. See thoughts to become aware of rumination."

"2. Label the mental habit or pattern. Once you see that you’re having a thought, label it by noting several aspects:"

"3. Open to what’s going on in the moment."

"4. Welcome vulnerability and the unknown."

"The answer may come over the course of a minute, a day, or a week. It may come piecemeal, in seemingly random insights."

"Whatever arises, welcome it. Ultimately, this process allows us to increase our tolerance of uncomfortable emotions, sensations, and impulses and remain present to our own vulnerability rather than spinning imagined scenarios in our mind that distance us from what’s happening in our bodies and lives in the here and now."

"Breaking the cycle of anxious rumination doesn’t happen by accident. It’s not magic. It happens one thought, trigger, and day at a time, one choice at a time."