About This Book

"The Gap and The Gain" is a guide for high achievers to find happiness, confidence, and success. The book explains that tying happiness to future success diminishes the present, and measuring oneself against ideals creates a gap. The author encourages failing as a way to improve and emphasizes the importance of being unhealthy about one's goals to achieve greatness. The book also emphasizes the need for intense commitment and healthy detachment, and the importance of hope for motivation.

Top Highlights

• When your happiness is tied to something in the future, then your present is diminished. You don’t feel happy, confident, or successful. But maybe in the future you will be, or so the logic goes.
• You’re in the GAP every time you measure yourself or your situation against an ideal.
• “If you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have. If you focus on what you have, you gain what you lack.”6
• It really doesn’t matter what the experience was; the choice is fully yours in how you frame it—whether in the GAP or the GAIN.
• The problem is that “needs” are unresolved internal pain, not something you can solve externally. Bill Wilson, the co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, said, “All progress starts by telling the truth.”