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• Goals, obstacles, and critical variables for success are seen distinctly, and work can proceed in a cohesive and fulfilling way.
• When Self 2 focus is occurring, it seems magical because the actions are more spontaneous and unexpectedly effortless. Self-consciousness is gone. Self-judgment is gone. The overcontrolling mechanisms of fear and doubt are gone.
• different and more elegant approach to learning and coaching emerged. It was based on principles that could be summarized in three words: awareness, trust, and choice. Elaborated slightly, the principles were (1) nonjudgmental awareness is curative; (2) trust Self 2 (my own and the student’s); and (3) leave primary learning choices with the student...
• As coach, my first responsibility was to maintain a nonjudgmental focus, provide appropriate opportunity for natural learning, and stay out of the way. Secondarily, my job was to help the student maintain focus while trusting in Self 2’s capacity to learn directly from experience.
• Thus the first step in this better way to change lies in a nonjudgmental acknowledgment of things as they are. Paradoxically, it is conscious acceptance of oneself and one’s actions as they are that frees up both the incentive and the capacity for spontaneous change.