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• The daily problems were unremitting and the only let-up came in very specific circumstances. The perfect alignment of the planets looked like this: if the children felt protected from any sort of danger, relieved of pressure to perform or take responsibility, and sufficiently stimulated by having lots of fun things to do, they were able to relax an...
• I was thirty-seven years old when I began to search for a different approach to counseling. During most of the ten years it took me to find a new philosophy of parenting and put it to good use, my life, both externally and internally, was very much like the lives of the families I counseled.
• When I told them that they needed to become the “high priests in the Holy Temple of their home,” they laughed, but later it began to make sense to them. They realized that they had been so kind and democratic with their children that there was no order in the universe of their home. The children were tuned in to their own desires but not to their o...
• Through the study and practice of Judaism, I learned that the parents I counseled had fallen into a trap created out of their own good intentions. Determined to give their children everything they needed to become “winners” in this highly competitive culture, they missed out on God’s most sacred gift to us: the power and holiness of the present mom...
• Three cornerstone principles of Jewish living are moderation, celebration, and sanctification. Through these principles we can achieve a balanced life, no matter what culture we happen to inhabit.