Hey Steve: What Happened to Real Dates

TL;DR

How to handle a male friend pursuing you, sleeping with your friend, and still trying to pursue you without losing the friendship.

Transcript

• Where's uh, Nika? Nicka? Nika? Nika? Okay, Nika. - Hi, Steve. So, I have this male friend that's been pursuing me for quite some time now, but that recently changed due to the fact that I invited him out with a friend of mine, a girlfriend, and they ended up having sex. Now, he's still trying to pursue me, but I just can't get over the fact that ... Read More

Key Insights

• ❓ Pursuing a friendship while constantly pursuing someone romantically can create complicated relationship dynamics.
• 🪈 People's actions should align with their intentions in order to maintain healthy friendships.
• 🥳 Both parties should communicate openly and honestly to navigate new dating situations.
• 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 Traditional dating practices, such as going on real dates and courting, are still relevant and important in establishing romantic relationships.

Questions & Answers

Q: How does the woman break it to her male friend that she can't get over him sleeping with her friend?

Steve advises her to put it out of her mind and give the guy a chance, as they were never in a relationship. He suggests blocking out what happened and not bringing it up to maintain the friendship.

Q: Why did the guy pursue the woman for seven years and then sleep with her friend?

The guy pursued the woman for years without success, and when presented with the opportunity to sleep with her friend, he took it. Steve suggests that the woman can't really be mad at him, as he did what most men would have done in that situation.

Q: How can the woman approach the conversation about going on a real date without sounding pushy?

Steve explains that young guys in this generation don't schedule formal dates because women allow them to get away with it. He advises the woman not to be afraid to initiate the conversation and to express her desire for a real date instead of just hanging out.

Q: Why is face-to-face interaction important in dating?

Steve emphasizes that dating is about meeting someone in person, looking into their eyes, and feeling a connection. He highlights the importance of real-life interactions and expresses that technology cannot replace that aspect of dating.

Summary & Key Takeaways

• A woman seeks advice on how to handle a male friend who has been pursuing her for years but slept with her friend. She wants to break it to him without damaging their friendship.

• Steve Harvey suggests that since they were never in a relationship, the woman should give him a chance and block out what happened. He warns her not to bring it up and advises her to move on if she can't do that.

• Another woman asks how to approach a guy she likes about going on a real date, as her generation tends to just hang out. Steve advises that young guys act this way because women allow it, and emphasizes the importance of face-to-face interaction in dating.