"Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me)" by Carol Tavris explores the fascinating phenomenon of self-justification and the distortions it creates in our minds. Drawing on extensive research in psychology and neuroscience, Tavris reveals the cognitive traps we fall into when protecting our self-image, our beliefs, or our actions.

This enlightening book delves into how our brains deceive us, leading to a wide range of destructive consequences. Tavris shows how biases, confirmation bias in particular, can shape our memories, judgments, and relationships, causing us to reinforce false beliefs and defend harmful behaviors.

Through engaging real-life examples, Tavris explores the consequences of unchecked self-justification. She delves into high-stakes situations, such as political scandals, religious fanaticism, and criminal behavior, that arise from the inability to admit mistakes. Tavris also explores the pervasive nature of self-justification in everyday life, affecting friendships, marriages, and even our own personal growth.

With a compelling blend of storytelling and scientific research, Tavris dissects the psychological mechanisms behind denial, rationalization, and blaming others. She offers insights into why we find it so difficult to say "I was wrong" and provides strategies for breaking free from the grip of self-justification.

"Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me)" is a thought-provoking exploration of the human psyche and the power of self-justification. It challenges readers to question their own biases and encourages them to seek truth and personal growth by acknowledging mistakes. This book proves that insight into our own flaws can lead to a more compassionate and mindful existence.