tell people what you want so they can help you achieve it.

If we seem open to opportunities, others will make us aware of them. If we solicit people’s opinions on how to grow, we are showing that we are willing to take feedback, and will continue to get advice.

Opportunity doesn’t usually fall into your lap. It’s there, but sometimes you have to shake a few trees in order to get access. By making your goals known, you are giving others the chance to help you achieve them.

No one can read your mind. I often tell the people I coach, "If you don't ask for what you want, don't be surprised if you don't get it."

Your mentors and sponsors don't always have you at the top of their minds. Even when something seems important or obvious to you, it may not be to them; in fact, they may not even know you want it! That’s why it’s so important to reach out and ask.

You’ll never know if you don’t ask. Putting yourself out there like this can be difficult, but the potential reward is worth the risk of getting an answer you don’t want.

a lot of times they weren't sure exactly what I wanted, because although they knew I was looking for opportunities, I wasn’t clear about what kind. That was when I realized I needed to be specific. By inviting help, and clearly defining how others can provide it, you are making it easier for them to give it to you.

The desire: What is it that you want? 

The why: Why do you want this? 

The timing: Why is now the right time for this?  

The invitation: What can the person you’re asking do to help you get there?

Those who ask are more likely to get what they want because their asks are naturally top of mind.

Signaling your openness, telling people what you want, and giving them permission to help you will reduce the friction to having your requests met. Yes, it feels risky, but as the saying goes, “Nothing ventured, nothing gained.”