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This High-Income Skill Made Me $1.1 Million Last Year

substack.com/home/post/p-142377541?source=queue

Mar 7, 2024

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Rare Skills

collabfund.com/blog/rare-skills/

Mar 7, 2024

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Experts On Aging Reveal The 5 Major Habits That Will Improve Your Longevity

www.huffpost.com/entry/superager-aging-well-tips_l_65970de1e4b0f27b6e36c967?ref=refind

Mar 3, 2024

5

Anger, sadness, boredom, anxiety – emotions that feel bad can be useful

theconversation.com/anger-sadness-boredom-anxiety-emotions-that-feel-bad-can-be-useful-217654?ref=refind

Mar 3, 2024

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Matt Yglesias and the secret of blogging

maxread.substack.com/p/matt-yglesias-and-the-secret-of-blogging?ref=refind

Mar 3, 2024

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Alcohol and drugs rewire your brain by changing how your genes work – research is investigating how to counteract addiction’s effects

theconversation.com/alcohol-and-drugs-rewire-your-brain-by-changing-how-your-genes-work-research-is-investigating-how-to-counteract-addictions-effects-220134?ref=refind

Mar 3, 2024

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How to turn "small talk" into Big Talk

thequietlife.net/p/how-to-turn-small-talk-into-big-talk?pos=5&utm_source=%2Fbrowse%2Frecommendations&utm_medium=reader2

Mar 2, 2024

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Study finds link between marijuana use and cardiovascular disease

arstechnica.com/science/2024/02/marijuana-use-linked-to-increased-risk-of-heart-attack-stroke-study-finds/

Mar 1, 2024

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3 Obtainable Goals Every Content Creator Should Strive For

theformula.substack.com/p/3-obtainable-goals-every-content

Mar 1, 2024

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How To Deal With Anxiety

www.dailyyogi.co/p/how-to-deal-with-anxiety?utm_source=www.dailyyogi.co&utm_medium=newsletter&utm_campaign=how-to-deal-with-anxiety

Feb 27, 2024

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To make great changes in your life, follow the philosophy of kaizen

bigthink.com/smart-skills/kaizen/?ref=refind

Feb 27, 2024

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Sunday Firesides: How Bad Do You Want It?

www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/sunday-firesides-how-bad-do-you-want-it/?utm_referrer=onedailynugget.com&utm_source=onedailynugget.com&utm_medium=referral

Feb 27, 2024

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Psychologists recommend children be bored in the summer

qz.com/704723/to-be-more-self-reliant-children-need-boring-summers

Feb 22, 2024

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You Need to Learn to Be Human - The Deep Sphere

thedeepsphere.com/you-need-to-learn-to-be-human/

Feb 22, 2024

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The Curiosity Matrix: 9 Habits of Curious Minds

nesslabs.com/curiosity-matrix

Feb 22, 2024

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The Sunday Brew #65

percolator.substack.com/p/the-sunday-brew-65?utm_source=post-email-title&publication_id=298077&post_id=141565232&utm_campaign=email-post-title&isFreemail=true&r=1ntemk&utm_medium=email

Feb 13, 2024

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Amor Fati: The Formula for Human Greatness

dailystoic.com/amor-fati-love-of-fate/

Feb 12, 2024

2

The Wise Learn from Both

www.dailyyogi.co/p/the-wise-learn-from-both-8542

Feb 12, 2024

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Texas A&M Researcher Says Men Should Abstain From Drinking At Least Three Months Prior To Conceiving

today.tamu.edu/2023/12/13/drinking-prior-to-conceiving/

Feb 12, 2024

3

The psychology of negative thinking

nesslabs.com/negative-thinking?ref=refind

Feb 11, 2024

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"How to Guarantee a Life of Misery"

jamesclear.com/great-speeches/how-to-guarantee-a-life-of-misery-by-charlie-munger

Feb 9, 2024

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Order Your Instincts To Wait

www.dailyyogi.co/p/order-your-instincts-to-wait?utm_source=www.dailyyogi.co&utm_medium=newsletter&utm_campaign=order-your-instincts-to-wait

Feb 9, 2024

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A grandfather's advice to young people: 3 ways to become more likable, memorable and build lasting relationships

www.cnbc.com/2021/01/28/how-to-be-more-likable-memorable-and-build-lasting-relationships-advice-for-young-people.html?utm_referrer=onedailynugget.com&utm_source=onedailynugget.com&utm_medium=referral

Feb 8, 2024

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Why Do I Get Anxious for No Reason? – The Friendly Mind

www.thefriendlymind.com/why-do-i-get-anxious-for-no-reason/

Feb 7, 2024

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Quit: A Framework for Giving Up

www.readaccelerated.com/p/quit-a-framework-for-giving-up?ref=refind

Feb 7, 2024

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The purpose of life is to participate in evolution through action

engineeringideas.substack.com/p/the-purpose-of-life-is-to-participate

Feb 6, 2024

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How to Argue with Your Partner in a Healthy Way

greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_argue_with_your_partner_in_a_healthy_way

Relationships

Feb 5, 2024

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Was Randy Cassingham the first member of the Creator Economy?

simonowens.substack.com/p/was-randy-cassingham-the-first-member

Feb 4, 2024

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You Can’t Find the Meaning of Life

mythirdbrain.substack.com/p/you-cant-find-the-meaning-of-life

Feb 1, 2024

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The Magic of Now, Not How

www.nirandfar.com/now-not-how/?utm_source=smartrdaily&utm_medium=newsletter&utm_campaign=10-ideas-that-changed-our-lives

Feb 1, 2024

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Active vs. Passive Learning

collabfund.com/blog/active-vs-passive-learning/?ref=refind

Feb 1, 2024

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How to cure Highlight Dementia

www.cortexfutura.com/how-to-cure-highlight-dementia/

Jan 29, 2024

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When Weakness Turns Your Ego Up

dailystoic.com/when-weakness-turns-your-ego-up/

Jan 29, 2024

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2 tricks will help you learn and remember new stuff

www.futurity.org/learning-memory-tricks-strategy-2819702/

Learning

Jan 26, 2024

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How hard should I push myself?

every.to/superorganizers/how-hard-should-i-push-myself?utm_source=email&utm_medium=welcome&utm_campaign=1

Jan 26, 2024

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The Man Who Reads 1,000 Articles a Day

superorganizers.substack.com/p/the-man-who-reads-1000-articles-a

Jan 26, 2024

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Study: Stubborn Kids Are More Likely to Be Successful

www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/study-stubborn-kids-are-more-likely-to-be-successful.html

Jan 26, 2024

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3-2-1: Busyness, what makes us happy, and going a little overboard

jamesclear.com/3-2-1/october-27-2022

Jan 26, 2024

1

The Secret Algorithm Behind Learning

medium.com/personal-growth/the-secret-algorithm-behind-learning-7c6f4eb702df

Jan 25, 2024

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The psychology of negative thinking

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In his book Cognitive Therapy, Beck explained: “A central feature of the theory is that the content of a person’s thinking affects their mood.” It’s an endless loop: when you’re already feeling anxious or depressed, succumbing to negative thought patterns is unfortunately likely to worsen the way you feel.

Once recognised, negative thoughts can be managed to reduce the impact on your emotional wellbeing. This in turn will break the cycle of negative thinking. By paying attention to your thoughts and interrogating their validity you can prevent cognitive distortions from skewing your beliefs and impacting your mental health.

Furthermore, research suggests that amongst university students, automatic thoughts were strongly correlated with self-esteem. If you regularly experience negative thoughts, this cognitive distortion can sadly worsen an already poor mental health, leading to low mood, poor self-esteem, and anxiety.

To make things worse, a bias towards negative thinking will increase the likelihood that you’ll spend time ruminating on mistakes or dwelling on things that didn’t go as well as you had hoped. Negativity bias, or the propensity to focus on negative experiences, can cloud your judgement. Decisions will appear more complex than they truly are, which will make it harder to know how to handle difficult situations.

Depression and negative cognitions have a reciprocal link in which one worsens the other, and vice versa. With both factors present, a vicious cycle is set in motion. Learning how to recognise and manage negative thoughts could therefore be the key to breaking this cycle of poor mental health, as well as helping you to avoid the pitfalls of negativity bias.

First you need to recognise negative thinking when it arises. Automatic negative thoughts often coexist with poor mental health. In some, they will have been present for many years, and recognising them can take some time. When a situation triggers a thought, pay attention to it. Negative thoughts might include: “I am going to fail at this interview”,  “I will never lose weight”, “No one cares about me”, etc.

Did you notice how all of these are all-or-nothing, catastrophizing thoughts? Once you are confident in recognising negative thoughts when they arise, you can begin to interrogate your automatic thinking patterns. Rather than allowing a negative thought to control your emotions, ask yourself if the thought is truthful or helpful. If the negative thought provides no value, it’s time to shift your focus by rewiring your thought patterns.

It can be tempting to try to force positive thoughts in the hope that they might replace negative ones. However, managing negative thinking involves transmuting our thoughts rather than replacing them. This process requires you to change the way you respond to your negative thoughts, as well as controlling how much impact they have.

  1. Create distance from your thoughts. Pay attention to your automatic thoughts and start to label them as subjective thoughts. For example, you may say out loud or internally: “I’m having the thought that I am no good at my job” or “I’m having the thought that I am all alone.” Labelling your thoughts in this way will help you to detach from the critical inner voice that makes a distorted thought seem like the truth. Similar to a meditation practice, this is a way to merely observe the thought, rather than actively engage with it.
  1. Start a thought diary. Journaling in a thought diary is a great way to manage negative thinking. Write down the date, the time, the event that triggered an emotion, and the resulting negative thought.

Being able to name your emotions and the resulting thought will help you to understand the relationship between external triggers and internal beliefs.

  1. Use de-catastrophizing techniques. Negative thinking often leads to catastrophizing. If making a mistake leads you to believe that your worst-case scenario is likely to happen, de-catastrophizing can prevent a spiral of negative thinking. You may find it helpful to ask yourself:

What am I worried about?
Is it likely that my worry will come true?
What is the worst that could happen if my worry did come true?
If my worry comes true, what is most likely to happen?
Despite my worry, am I likely to be ok in one week (or month, year, and so on)?