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• “I FEEL LIKE EVERYONE ELSE GOT SOME MANUAL when they turned twenty-five, and I was sick that day,” Josh said. “What kind of manual?” I asked. He gave me a weary look. “You know, a guide to adult life—with instructions on mortgages and insurance policies and dry cleaning and long-term relationships and raising kids who don’t hate you.” “Oh, that man...
• Seeing people as they truly are, as opposed to how we would have them be, is a crucial ingredient in generating authentic compassion and lasting love.
• “Self-righteousness is, after all, the great enemy of love.”
• True intimacy requires vulnerability and forgiveness, so why not make that explicit on the big day?
• it bears stating that self-loathing is usually born out of a high anthropology rather than a low one.