Top Highlights

• One week in and the fight for fairness—the fight over who’s doing more and who’s doing less, who cares more and who cares less—had begun.
• Everyone seems a little bit lost when it comes to making marriage work. Everyone seems to be searching for a better model—any model, really—for being equals and managing the chaos of modern life, all while staying in love.
• We also discovered that most modern couples grapple with a similar list of challenges. Almost everyone we spoke with reported living in a constant state of busyness, a harried feeling of never having enough time. One woman told us, “I go through life just wishing someone would give me an hour.” Another told us, “I’m used to getting an A-plus in lif...
• The more time becomes scarce, the more tension builds. The more stress we add to the system, the more toxic this battle becomes, and the further we fall from being in sync, connected, and in love.
• Like most modern couples, we want to have it all. We want individual success with all the benefits of sharing a life together. We want large stretches of time for being fully present with our child. We want to feel connected and in love. We want to relax, whatever that means. In short, like many of the couples we interviewed, we’ve continually bump...