About This Book

- 🌟 **Understanding Orgasm**: Only about 25% of women reliably orgasm through intercourse; the rest may experience varying degrees of orgasmic response, highlighting the diversity of sexual experiences. - 🧠 **Sexual Response Mechanism**: Sexual arousal involves a balance of a "sexual accelerator" and "sexual brakes," which respond differently to stimuli based on individual sensitivities, affecting desire and orgasm. - 🕊️ **Cultural Myths**: The hymen has no biological function but has been culturally mythologized as a marker of virginity, reflecting societal control over women's sexuality. - 🔍 **Self-Exploration**: Encouraging self-exploration and positive body image through exercises like mirror work can enhance sexual confidence and awareness of pleasure. - 💡 **Addressing Sexual Issues**: Sexual problems can stem from sensitive brakes or insensitivity of the accelerator; understanding these dynamics can help in seeking effective treatments and improving sexual experiences.

Top Highlights

• In reality, about a quarter of women orgasm reliably with intercourse. The other 75 percent sometimes, rarely, or never orgasm with intercourse, and they’re all healthy and normal.
• we’ve been taught to think about sex in terms of behavior, rather than in terms of the biological, psychological, and social processes underlying the behavior.
• the sexual response mechanism in our brains consists of a pair of universal components—a sexual accelerator and sexual brakes—and those components respond to broad categories of sexual stimuli—including genital sensations, visual stimulation, and emotional context. And the sensitivity of each component varies from person to person. The result is th...
• We’re all made of the same parts, but in each of us, those parts are organized in a unique way that may change over our life span. No organization is better or worse than any other, and no phase in our life span is better or worse than any other; they’re just different.
• When you embrace your sexuality precisely as it is right now, that’s the context that creates the greatest potential for ecstatic pleasure.