Top Highlights

• Is the relationship always focused on your loved one’s needs and wants, never on yours? Have you begun to lose track of your own needs and wants? Does your loved one make unreasonable demands, and keep insisting on them, to the point where you feel that saying “no” is not worth the pain? Have you tried to explain your point of view a million times ...
• Does what they say often make no logical sense? Is it clear that they’ve lost all perspective on who you actually are? Are you the focus of their intense, violent, or irrational rages that grow way out of proportion to what instigated them? Do you feel manipulated and lied to, as if they’ll say anything to get what they want? Do they need to always...
• Essentially, people with BPD look to others to manage their feelings for them. Someone with BPD wants others to provide them with things they find difficult to supply for themselves, such as self-love, stable moods, and a sense of identity. Most of all, they are searching for a nurturing caregiver whose never-ending love and compassion will fill th...
• COMMON BPD THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, AND ACTIONS THOUGHTS Impaired perception and reasoning Splitting—i.e., seeing things solely in black-or-white terms (no grays) Shifting back and forth between black and white; when in one mode, having no memory of ever being in the other Putting particular people on pedestals—then knocking them off When under stress, ...
• The researchers also discovered that nearly 40 percent of the people who have BPD also have narcissistic personality disorder.