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• More specifically, they are afraid to have what might show up inside of them—the thoughts, feelings, and sensations—were they to do something different.
• Avoidance is about control.
• You get to exert a measure of control over all of that uncomfortable stuff by staying away from the situations that might evoke it.
• That’s what avoiding stuff usually is: an effort to control uncomfortable feelings inside of us by staying away from the circumstances that give rise to them.
• lives have become unworkable because they are treating thoughts and feelings like saber-toothed tigers.