Top Highlights

• Of course, if we wanted to take an even closer look at each of these moments in history, we could find the corrupt stories of power and control, men and money, and the forces of manipulation at work behind each of these scenes.
• Any body-curiosity or pleasure desire having to do with genitals (yours or anyone else’s) is bad, dirty, and perverted. Curiosity or attraction toward anyone other than someone of the opposite sex, or an experience of gender identity other than that which matches the genitals “assigned to you at birth”—that also is bad, dirty, and perverted.
• We know from psychobiologist Jaak Pansksepp’s research that all forms of childhood play that are free, creative, fun, exploratory, relational, and sensorimotor have an effect on a child’s ability to think creatively, solve problems, learn social skills (sex is social), increase physical fitness, and many other positive outcomes.
• This shame is almost always at the heart of their attachment and sexual problems—low desire, sexual secrecy, betrayal, ignorance (lack of knowledge), out-of-control sexual behavior, and sexual dysfunction.
• A mountain of research has been done in the field of positive psychology to show that when we feel joy, contentment, and pleasure, we are more likely to expand our thinking, be creative, be playful, connect with others, and reach our goals.