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• Key to building up such maps is working out where transference might be occurring.
• We should never feel ashamed of instructing or of needing instruction. The only fault is to reject the opportunity for education if it is offered – however clumsily.
• No one can disappoint and upset us as much as the person we’re in a relationship with – for of no one do we have higher hopes. It’s because we are so dangerously optimistic that we call them a cunt, a shithead or a weakling. The intensity of the disappointment and frustration is dependent on the prior massive investment of hope. It’s one of the odd...
• But when it comes to relationships, expectations are the enemies of love.
• The only people we can think of as normal are those we don’t yet know very well.