Top Highlights

• idealization, indirect persuasion, and testing the waters.
• “my ex always used to do this, but you never do that,” they are telling you to behave a certain way.
• Emotional abusers condition their victims to feel ashamed, inadequate, and unstable. This is because they are cowards, incapable of healthy relationships with strong and self-respecting individuals.
• This results in a strange dynamic where the abuser is idealized, despite being lazy, dishonest, and unfaithful, while the victim is devalued, despite putting more effort into this relationship than ever before.