Top Highlights

• Don’t think of mating as fighting women for victory. They are not your enemy. Think of mating as finding women who want the same things you want—so you can both win.
• Confidence is the realistic expectation you have of being successful at something, given (a) your competence at it and (b) the risk involved with doing it.
• Mating confidence is the sum of every specific kind of confidence you feel about every domain of competence that matters to women.
• “In practice, there is no losing. There is only winning and learning. The only way to lose is to not practice.”
• Some of the same male traits that frighten you the most also seem to be the most attractive to you. The guys who pose the greatest physical threat are also the same guys you can envision making you feel the safest. The guy who seems like the most egotistical player in the bar is also the one making you laugh so hard that your ribs hurt. It’s all a ...