Top Highlights

• I’ve concentrated upon the things I control, and used that control to remove the restrictions and complications from my life.
• “lives of quiet desperation”1
• resigning themselves to loveless compromises that masquerade as marriages.
• There are two Identity Traps: (1) the belief that you should be someone other than yourself; and (2) the assumption that others will do things in the way you would.
• You can’t control the natures of other people, but you can control how you’ll deal with them. And you can also control the extent and manner in which you’ll be involved with them. The paradox is that you have tremendous control over your life, but you give up that control when you try to control others.