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• For example, if your partner touches you but doesn’t feel you, sometimes no amount of touch gives you threshold levels of arousal. Touching without feeling is fairly common. It shows up as touch that feels mechanical, wooden, or dead. It often involves the same spot being rubbed over and over again and feels irritating both physically and emotional...
• If you and your partner are emotionally “fused” (Part 2), you probably spend lots of time buffering the emotional impacts you have on each other and little time reveling in the pleasure of each other’s touch. If you or your partner anticipate more criticism or an argument, telling your partner what you want often doesn’t bring results you like.
• Insufficient high-quality stimulation can often be resolved if couples discuss this openly without dodging or overreacting.
• My clients often find that this conversation is a turning point in their relationship and personal developments.
• Mary didn’t want Phil to really connect with her during sex because she didn’t want him to know what she was feeling.