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• We may realize something’s wrong when we have a specific sexual problem that doesn’t go away, has no medical cause, and is causing us more and more anxiety.
• I was very unhappy because I would become shy and clam up, saying little or nothing at all around women I liked and wanted to know better. If I did start talking with a woman, I would find myself feeling uncomfortable, very nervous, and somewhat scared.
• Don said his problem was he liked women too much and found it hard to be with one special partner over a long period. He would develop a deep friendship and intimacy, but then his eyes would wander.
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• Sexual healing has more to do with recovered feelings of sensuality than with the sexual act itself. To be able to feel aroused in the fullest sense of the word—without fear of betrayal, retribution, or abandonment—moves beyond culturally defined views of appropriate behavior to a deeper level of self-acceptance.†