Top Highlights

• The secret to life is not to take it personally. The things people do and say are not always about you. Usually they’re about their own fears.
• Once you realize that most people are just like you—and that they’re actually seeking your approval—you’ll start to become socially fearless.
• The dating dichotomy isn’t actually between nice guys and mean guys, or good boys and bad boys. It’s between weak guys and strong guys. Women are drawn to men who demonstrate strength—not necessarily physical strength, but the ability to make them feel safe. So if you’re a nice guy, you can still be nice. But you must also be strong.
• Most guys who define themselves as “too nice” only behave nicely because they want everybody to like them and don’t want anyone to think badly of them. So, if this is you, get off your nice high horse. Don’t mistake being fearful and weak-minded for being nice.
• Fortunately for men, the way we look doesn’t matter nearly as much as how we present ourselves. And this requires only good grooming, and clothing that conveys an attractive identity. When it comes to wealth and fame, simply displaying the desire and ability to achieve them can be just as powerful. Like talent scouts, many women are attracted to me...