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• Twos deceive themselves about the presence and extent of their own emotional needs as well as their aggressive feelings, not recognizing how manipulative and domineering they can be. As we shall see, unhealthy Twos are among the most difficult of the personality types to deal with because they are extremely selfish in the name of utter selflessness...
• Twos inevitably arouse resentments against themselves while demanding that others confirm how virtuous they are. When interpersonal conflicts arise, as they inevitably do because of their attempts to control others, average to unhealthy Twos always feel “more sinned against than sinning.” They see themselves as martyrs who have sacrificed themselve...
• (Twos could be briefly characterized as persons who, fearing that they are unlovable, spend their lives trying to make people love them.)
• average to unhealthy Twos, very little can satisfy the superego.
• They understand that self-nurturance is not selfish: in fact, it is essential if they are going to be of any real help to anyone else.