Top Highlights

• it is dangerous to think of anger as something to be repressed, or as something bad.
• when we teach that anger should be avoided, it can be used to oppress people by getting them to tolerate whatever is happening to them.
• it is based on ways of thinking that imply wrongness or badness on the part of others for what they have done.
• “I’m feeling angry because I am telling myself__________,” and then to look for the kind of life-alienated thinking going on inside our head that is the cause of our anger.
• if you want to use guilt with somebody, you need to communicate in a way that indicates that your pain is being caused simply by what they do.